You are Entitled to Define Your Life

Whenever I said, “I don’t care,” my mom would reply, “Don’t care–Was made to care.”

I’ll be damned. I have heard that for years – 46 to be precise, and I just figured it out yesterday.

If you don’t define what you want, you will get what the universe gives you. This is true in all aspects of your life. How can you find what you want, if you don’t know what you are looking for?

Recently, a friend offered to bring me lunch, as I couldn’t leave the event I was attending.  She asked me what I wanted, and I said, “I don’t care– Anything is fine”. When I unwrapped the sandwich, I saw salami, onions, pickles and vinaigrette…  basically everything I hated. OMG, I finally understood what my mom had being saying my whole life. If I fail to define what I want, there’s a really high probability that I’m going to get something that I don’t. Without any instruction on what I would like, my friend simply ordered what sounded good to her.  My passive attitude towards what I wanted, resulted in me caring about the instructions I gave for my lunch. Don’t care was made to care, because I went hungry.

Maybe You Should Figure Out What You Want

What do you want? What are you looking for? Do you feel entitled to have the things you dream of in your life?  Next time you hear yourself say, “I don’t care,” take a moment to stop and think if that is really true.

When you’re sitting in your hairdresser’s chair and she asks what you want to have done, do you say I don’t care?  If you don’t care, then you should be happy with whatever she does… Remember my mom’s warning, “Don’t care, was made to care”.

Only you know your real preferences and if they are important to you, you’re 100% responsible for expressing them.  

You Are Probably Not a Mind Reader

It is foolish to expect someone else to know what I would like for lunch, if I don’t know what I want. “Not caring” can be an easy way to palm off the responsibility to someone else and not be responsible for the outcome.

If I asked 100 people to order a sandwich for me without stating my preference, I wonder how many of those sandwiches I would enjoy?

Why leave important things up to chance, when you can define exactly what you want?